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One Spoon Of Food & One Spoon Of Love

Marte Meo | Maria Aarts | Marte Meo Göteborg

[Göteborg, 14-3-2012] During my master class at Göteborg (Sweden, 14-3-2012) Birgitta Lindvall came up to me during the tea break. She told me that I, without realising it, helped her and her son a long time ago. It was a wonderful story about her son Simon. Birgitta and I would like to share this story with you and after the master class sessions she mailed me the following:

This is a story about »One spoon of food & One spoon of love!« One of the Marte Meo Elements concerning the importance of relax and connection moments during feeding of a child. I do a lot of teaching regarding supportive behaviour of children with eating problems. This story of Brigitta just fall into the right place of this. Interviewing Brigitta Lindvall in after the Göteborg sessions, she told me:

When our son, Simon, was born in 1993, we discovered he had a lot of pain in his stomach. We very often visited the hospitals at Skövde and Göteborg (Sweden). My son was given strong drugs; some doctors wanted to operate and some thought it not a good idea. It became harder and harder to get Simon to eat. In kindergarten, they forced him to eat and he became so afraid of this, that he refused to go into their kitchen and eventually after a while he even wouldn’t go into the kitchen at home.

My sister, Viveca, was using the Marte Meo method at her work and when she talked about the Marte Meo method and its principles, I got the idea that we could film at home what our food and eating situations looked like. We at that moment thought we were doing everything right and we wanted the doctors to see so too. Simon just refused to eat and drink! It was a tiring, sad and sick situation, those two years’ old boy and this two desperate parents.
So, one day my husband filmed the eating situation at home: I fed Simon and afterwards we watched the film together. We were shocked. We saw a stressed mom and her son. We had toys scattered over the table to distract and/or amuse Simon, but he didn’t look at me or the food at all. As soon as he tried to say something I put a spoonful of food into his mouth. I cheated and lured at Simon that he should eat, but it didn’t work out at all.

That same day, we changed entirely our feeding process. We were relaxed and tried to have a nice time together. We didn’t focused on whether Simon ate or not; he just got a plate of food, cutlery and glasses, and then it was up to him if he wanted to eat and how much. The food was on the table and he took it himself and choose how much he wanted. At first Simon was suspicious, but at least he sat at the table without being sad and upset. After a few times, he began to eat. HURRAY!!!!!!!!!!!

Now Simon is 18 years old and he still has a medical disease that is causing him stomach pains, but the food is not associated with something unpleasant anymore!
What an amazing luck that my sister worked with Marte Meo and that we filmed our home situation and did a review afterwards.
So, I now recommend people with similar problems to contact a Marte Meo therapist. Had it not been for you, Maria, it all would have ended badly for our son.

We all thank you for this.
Hugs,
Birgitta Lindvall with family

Epilogue:
So, you see where I get my energy from. From stories like these, making the difference for the quality of people’s life with the help of the Marte Meo information
I developed over the years!

Maria Aarts
Eindhoven/Sydney
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